Happiness is arguably one of the most elusive goals and one that we are all in search of at some point throughout our lives. Happiness is not something that you can buy, it is not something that you can easily find if you don’t have it, and it is not something that you can easily give to others.
Whilst it is often assumed that money and material goods will bring happiness, this is not always the case and sometimes the richest people can be unhappy and the poorest people can find happiness in the most unlikely places. More often, happiness comes from contentment and this is something you have to find within yourself.
In this article we have put together 10 tips that will help you to live a joyful life and assist you on your question for contentment and happiness.
Tip #1: Be Grateful for the Good Things in Your Life
This is a great starting point to achieve happiness in your life. Often we are looking for something more in our lives, and when we find that something, we realize it is not enough and we start looking once again for the next new thing.
This is a never-ending cycle and one that does not lead anywhere, least of all to happiness. The first step towards living a happy life is to realize this and to be grateful for what you already have, rather than crave the things that you don’t have.
There is a saying which goes like this; “The grass is always greener on the other side”. This saying summarizes the first tip. The meaning of this saying is as follows: You always think something looks better when it belongs to another person. But in reality, when you have that something, it’s never as good as you thought.
So the key takeaway for tip number 1 is to think about the things that you already have in your life. Think about these positive things every morning when you get up and be grateful for them. Also consider the fact that there are others out there who don’t have the things you have, and who would give anything for them.
Tip #2: Think Carefully About the Decisions You Make
The decisions that you make on a daily basis will have some sort of effect on your future happiness. Some decisions will be very minor and their effect will be unnoticeable. Other decisions will be very important and could have a major effect on your future happiness.
Often at the time of an important decision, your emotions will take over and you will act without thinking about your future self. This can cause you problems further down the road and it can eventually lead to great unhappiness.
Whenever you make decisions in life, you should take a moment to consider the implications of that decision, how it is likely to affect you, and those around you, both now and in the future. You can use that information to decide whether or not the decision is going to benefit you in the long term, or whether it is likely to reduce your happiness.
Tip #3: Surround Yourself with Happy People
People say that you become like the people you surround yourself with. For this reason, if you want to be happy, you should surround yourself with happy people. If you already have a circle of friends that you associate with, then have a think about the people who make up your circle.
Consider whether these people are happy, and also consider the type of people that are in your circle and whether they are the type of people you would associate with happiness.
If you currently feel very unhappy on a day to day basis, it is quite possible that you are associating with the wrong people.
Tip #4: Always Try to Consider the Happiness of Those Around You
Happiness is not just about you. Happiness comes from those around you and you often need to rely on others to help you feel happy. You should think about this selflessly and always try to make those around you happy. Or at least, consider how your actions will impact those around you and whether they will make others happy, or sad.
If those around you are happy when they’re in your presence, they are likely to try and do their best to make you happy as well.
Tip #5: Try to Moderate the Highs and Lows Within Your Life
Happiness is part of a spectrum which also includes sadness. At one end of the spectrum is complete happiness and at the other, complete sadness.
You will always have moments in your life that exist at different points of this spectrum but it is important to consider where on the spectrum you are. It is also important to consider that you may have moments at opposite locations on the spectrum and that you should consider this when you make decisions in life.
For example, if you go after extreme happiness, or more to the point, partake in extreme thrill-seeking then you may well have downs that are at the opposite end of the spectrum.
So if you want to avoid those extreme downs, then you should try to live your life at a moderate level of excitement rather than seeking extreme thrills.
Tip #6: Think About the Concept of Karma and Live by It
Karma is a belief that some people have about the actions you take having future ramifications. This is just a concept and it is not something that can necessarily be proved or disproved. However, regardless of whether Karma is real, to consider it as a concept can be very helpful in living a happy life.
If you consider that being nice to others will lead to good things happening to you in return, and that being bad will lead to bad things happening to you in return, it will help you to always consider the consequences of your actions, regardless of whether anyone knows when you have done something good or bad.
Living this way helps you to have a clear conscience and will lead to happiness and contentment in your life.
Tip #7: Learn to Love Yourself
In order to find happiness you have to be happy with yourself. This can be a quick process, or it can be a long process. But the first step is learning to love yourself, and getting in touch with your inner self as well.
It is important to take time out of your day to be with your thoughts. You don’t want to always rely on being around others and you don’t want to neglect your inner feelings, your thoughts and your needs.
If you find it hard to spend time in your own company, then think about what it is that you are missing, and this may lead to changes that you want to make in your life, in order to become happier with yourself.
Tip #8: Think About and Work on your Personal Development
This is something that will lead on from the previous tip. The more time that you spend with yourself, the more you will think about the things you want to improve. You should always think about these improvements, and you should not think of self-improvement as a negative, but as a positive.
When you make changes in your life to improve yourself or your current situation, you will feel a great sense of achievement and this in itself will improve your overall happiness.
Tip #9: Eat Healthily and Exercise
This should be an easy one, but often it can seem one of the hardest to achieve. If you currently have a bad diet, it can be very difficult to change. However, your diet really will affect your day to day mood, which in turn will affect your happiness. As the saying goes, you are what you eat. This means that if you eat an unhealthy diet, you will become unhealthy and you will definitely become less happy over time.
If you can believe in the above statement, then eating healthy should be one of the first changes that you make and it should be one of the easiest ways to achieve happiness.
Tip #10: Don’t Take Life Too Seriously
The final tip is not to take life too seriously. Don’t get too caught up in the day to day struggles of life such as your job, your relationships and your material accomplishments. Remember that we only have one life and that we should be spending it doing things that we like doing.
Don’t take life too seriously, try to enjoy yourself without reducing the enjoyment of others and you will live a content and happy life.